| Coping
With Evil
Built-in
safeguards help children deal with fears from evil images -- including
recent depictions of Osama bin Laden -- a Tufts expert told ABC
News.
Medford/Somerville,
Mass. [12.14.01] -- Over the last
three months, the media has been saturated with powerful imagery
and commentary about how much evil resides in the world. As the
focus on Osama bin Laden and his campaign of terrorism increases,
many parents are wondering how to help their children cope with
the nation's new fears. But a Tufts expert says kids may be better
equipped to handle it than we think.
"Children
have built in safeguards in the way they think, safeguards that
help them to feel secure," Tufts' George
Scarlett -- a professor of child
development -- told ABC News.
According
to the Tufts expert, children relate to "evil" differently, depending
on their age.
"For
young children (preschoolers), evil comes in fantastic forms --
witches, eagles swooping into bedrooms and the like," Scarlett
told ABC News. "However fantastic bin Laden may appear to us,
he's no match for a young child's images of evil."
Just
being present is often enough.
"About
all we can do for the very young is tuck them in with a gentle
kiss and make them know that we are nearby," he said. "They, then,
will feel safe enough."
As
children grow older, however, they begin to associate "evil" more
and more with human forms.
While
a figure like bin Laden could be quite powerful to an older child,
Scarlett says they still believe their parents will be able to
protect them.
"Most
children are true believers that the good guys always win in the
end and that parents and God can and will keep the bad guys away,"
Scarlett told ABC News. "Furthermore, most children believe that
it is easy to spot evil, that even if an evil person comes near,
he or she will be spotted and, having been spotted, will be dealt
with."
If
parents try too hard to explain bin Laden, for example, they may
do more harm than good.
"We
do them a disservice to separate them from their illusions," he
said. "No need to interpret bin Laden -- he's a bad guy on TV
on the other side of the world. We have spotted him and we are
in control."
Sometimes
the illusion of safety is the most important thing to protect.
"We must match our interpretations of bin Laden to what evil means
to a child, not to what it means to us," Scarlett explained. "We
must uphold a child's right to feel safe even when no one is truly
safe."
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